Updated: Sep 7, 2021
Which do you think brings you the most happiness and health for years, Relationships or wealth and fame?
How many wealthy and famous people do you know on their 3rd or more marriages? If you've been through a divorce they are rarely described as fun. How many famous, wealthy people die at an early age of drug abuse or degenerative diseases? If they're wealthy and/or famous why are they going through multiple marriages and/or taking drugs?
Research shows us that relationships have a major impact on our health, happiness, and length of life.
A study that is ongoing today was started almost 80 years ago. “The surprising finding is that our relationships and how happy we are in our relationships has a powerful influence on our health,” said Robert Waldinger, director of the study, a psychiatrist at Massachusetts General Hospital and a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. “Taking care of your body is important, but tending to your relationships is a form of self-care too. That, I think, is the revelation.” https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/
One thing I have learned is that if you invest in yourself and your relationships the fame and money take care of themselves.
I rarely paid attention to my commissions as a capital equipment medical rep, I focused on taking care of the health care teams I served. I was always in the top 10 percent of our sales rankings. I did the same thing with my teams when I became a manager. I served my team members and customers. It made me feel great to be of value to so many people, to help them improve their lives personally and professionally.
My Mom told me years ago it takes two to wreck a marriage. Same is true for other relationships. If you think it was all the others fault that is Hubris. Not a good character trait.
Far to many relationships end before they should because people forget the most important rule for Relationship success. Each of you has to make sure the other feels safe and secure. You are supposed to have each others back. If the people in a relationship don't have each others back who will?
I've was divorced after 6 years and now Kathy and I have been married for almost 43 years. We are both 100 percent committed to having each others back, making sure we each feel safe and secure. It's 100% my responsibility and zero percent Kathy's and 100% Kathy's responsibility and zero mine. 50/50 doesn't work. I'll do this if you do that! : - (
My Dad used to tell me it's who you know, but know I believe it is who knows you and what they say about you when your not around.
I judged my sales reps and managers by how their customers and teammates described them when they were not around. If they described them as subject matter experts and trusted business partners, I thought highly of them. Amazingly enough they were also my top earners.
So if you want a long, healthy, happy life your best effort should go into your relationships. Remember, Relationships are not about you want as much as it is having each others back.